Last week we visited Catalina Island. This was a trip that I’ve been wanting to take for a long time – we were supposed to travel about 3 week before our first son was due but we canceled at the last minute as I was told that he might be born early – and he did, exactly 2 weeks earlier than the due date.
A few months ago, my family and I attended a party at a friend’s house. They have a nice house with a big swimming pool, and it was a hot, sunny day. My younger son has always been curious and adventurous, so we were watching him closely so he wouldn’t jump into the water. Our older one is a little bit more cautious, and I knew that he wouldn’t venture into the water on his own. He was just staying at the pool side, enjoying picking up toys from the water and throwing them back into the water again.
Last week I wrote this post “What Does Your Happiness Depend On?”, essentially saying that I sometimes catch myself making my husband responsible for my own happiness. When I had zero expectations of him doing something for me when he was physically not around, I noticed that I created my own happiness, totally independent from his behavior. Some of my kind readers left comments, suggesting that it is essentially our choice to feel happy or unhappy. This past week I thought more about this concept and observed myself when I do feel happy.
This week, it was my husband’s turn to be out of town. He left on early Sunday morning and came back on Thursday evening. I was left with two young, very active toddlers. Though it was physically challenging at times and exhausting to be on “kids duty” for the whole week without extra pair of hands, my emotional status has been surprisingly even and calm. I noticed that I hardly raised my voice to my kids, I used humor to redirect them and got them do things, such as getting ready in the morning, or getting them to sleep at night. Since I knew that I will be on my own to pick them up from daycare after work and put dinner on the table, I had planned each meal in advance and actually ended up cooking more than I would normally do. In other words, things went really well on that end.
Two weekends ago, I went to Las Vegas to attend my friend’s bachelorette party. It was my first one and it was definitely American, and was very interesting, to say the least. I fully enjoyed the experience; I even gambled a little and won some. My soon-to-be-bride friend was really happy that I could join the festivities. She told me that some of her friends said they couldn’t make it as they wouldn’t want to leave their kids with their husbands. I wondered how many mothers out there are fully comfortable with leaving their kids with their husbands’ care for a few days. Coincidentally, I found this article in the latest Parenting Magazine about “The 50-50 marriage”. It essentially talked about how you can get your husband more involved with the household chores as well as caring for your child(ren) in 5 easy steps, so you don’t get too angry towards him.
Last Saturday I presented at “2009 It Takes A Village” conference held at University of San Diego. Before my session at 11:00 a.m., there was a morning keynote speech by my mentor Pamela Dunn. She talked about how important it is for parents to foster our kids’ imagination so they can create the lives they desire. Since the day before, I have been attending another advanced course offered by Global Relationship Center called “Learning and Protection”, and my heart was already wide open compared to normal workdays – I even got teary when she played a short, heart-warming clip on the screen at the beginning of her speech(she said that it’s a trick to get the audience open their hearts, because once their hearts are open, you can say anything to them and it’ll be fine). Continue reading
A while ago, my husband suggested that we purchase “How to teach your baby to read” program by Gentle Revolution. It’s like a stack of flash cards written with huge red letters and you show them to your child while saying the word – the idea is that rather than memorizing the alphabet “a” “b” “c” and different ways to pronounce them depending on the combination with other letters, we have them memorize the entire word and how it sounds. Since my first language is not English, and I believe that English is a difficult language when it comes to the pronunciation of a word, I thought it was a great idea. Continue reading
On Wednesday afternoon, our kids’ daycare called me, informing that our younger son had a slight fever. I picked him up and took him home. On Thursday, we arranged a babysitter for him as he couldn’t go to the daycare. He’d also had a bump on his butt since 2 days which my husband thought was either a diaper rush or a small pimple. On Thursday evening, he was bleeding from that bump and was in pain – he cried in discomfort while in a sitting position. We called the nurse hotline and then the pediatrician’s office. Continue reading
Last Sunday, I attended my very first alumni event of the graduate school I had attended between 1996-1998. The school is called Monterey Institute of International Studies(MIIS) which is a very small, private graduate school located in Monterey, CA. It was there that I had learned to speak and write English, met my lifetime friend Mari (whose twin girls’ picture is in this post), and earned a Master’s degree in International Public Administration which qualified me to apply for a Junior Professional Officer position at the United Nations. Continue reading
(For those who have read my previous English post – I found my car keys!)
I was introduced to a concept “above the line, below the line” during one of the classes I attended for my coaching certification program. “The line” is a demarcation separating two types of attitudes; when you are below the line, you act, think and say things from a victim-like mentality or state of mind, and when you are above the line, you have ownership of whatever the circumstances you are in. Continue reading