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目を離すこと

「草花が伸びるのを見たいなら、目を離せばいい。こどもの成長だって、自分の事だって、同じだよ」 『セフティ・マッチ氏の銀の言葉』より

349742-42625-21先週から6日間州外に研修に行っていて、昨日の昼に帰ってきたのですが、空港で迎えに来た夫と子どもたちに会った時、2歳5ヶ月の下の子が急に成長したような気がして驚きました。夫が上の子のTシャツを下の子に着せていたためもあるのですが、ずっと大人びたような顔をしていて、家に帰ってから「○○してきて」と頼むと指示を聞いてささっと動いてくれたり、昼寝をしたくないとぐずっている時に「もっと遊びたい」と、今までに言った事のない表現で訴えたり・・・その日のうちに何度か、はっと顔をみて下の子であることを確認するような瞬間がありました。そこで頭に浮かんだのが上記の言葉です。毎日ずっと一緒にいてこそ目撃できる子どもの成長があるのと同時に、少しの間、離れることで見えてくる成長もあると・・また、自分のことにしても、毎日のように「大して遠くまでいけなかった自分」にめげる日々が続いたら、少し目を離してみることも大事だということでしょう。

What Does Your Happiness Depend On?

This week, it was my husband’s turn to be out of town. He left on early Sunday morning and came back on Thursday evening. I was left with two young, very active toddlers. Though it was physically challenging at times and exhausting to be on “kids duty” for the whole week without extra pair of hands, my emotional happinessstatus has been surprisingly even and calm. I noticed that I hardly raised my voice to my kids, I used humor to redirect them and got them do things, such as getting ready in the morning, or getting them to sleep at night. Since I knew that I will be on my own to pick them up from daycare after work and put dinner on the table, I had planned each meal in advance and actually ended up cooking more than I would normally do. In other words, things went really well on that end.

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Power of “I don’t know”

A while ago, my husband suggested that we purchase “How to teach your baby to read” program by Gentle Revolution. It’s like a stack of flash cards written with huge red letters and you show them to your child httybtr_lgwhile saying the word – the idea is that rather than memorizing the alphabet “a” “b” “c” and different ways to pronounce them depending on the combination with other letters, we have them memorize the entire word and how it sounds. Since my first language is not English, and I believe that English is a difficult language when it comes to the pronunciation of a word, I thought it was a great idea. Continue reading

It Takes A Village

この言葉はもともとアフリカの格言で、It takes a village to raise a child(子育ては村中でするmaxsもの)という意味です。ヒラリー・クリントンが同名の本を書いていますが、この名前のついた、子育てについての会議がサンディエゴで行われます。去年が第一回で、9月に行われた会議に一般参加者として出席した私は、閉会式で私が師と仰ぐSusie Waltonが締めの挨拶をしているのを聞きながら、来年は私がプレゼンターとして参加すると意を決しました。今から思うと、そこからRCB日本語コースを教えるための活動が出発したように思います。(写真は去年の基調講演をしたMax Simon)

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I’d Rather See A Sermon…

Some time ago, my husband and I watched the movie “Seven Samurai” which was highly recommended by my friend Henry. It is an old movie (1954) made by the CB059174world famous film director Akira Kurosawa. We enjoyed it very much. It is about a village of farmers that decided to hire seven samurai (ronin; masterless samurai)  to defend themselves from an impending attack of bandits instead of letting the bandits steal their crops after the harvest. There were many things to be said about this movie. I liked what Kanbei (the head Samurai) said to others when he was trying to recruit his small army. He was honest about it up front and said “I have a job that brings you no money and no fame”. Continue reading

Art Of The Balancing Act

My two sons are only 16 months apart. We wanted to have our children close in age because both my husband and I have close-in-age siblings, and our experiences of growing up were 14067_11overall positive. When people see us with two little ones running around, they say that we have a handful, and it is true that we do, but when we see them doing things together such as playing, giggling, sharing and entertaining each other, my husband and I look at each other and smile. As my husband likes to say, “It’s all part of the master plan”.

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